When you commence dating someone fresh, the number one thing you embark thinking about is very likely when you should make your relationship official. Am I right? Wondering when to commence calling that dude you’ve bot hooking up with your beau can be super strained. If you say it at the wrong time, it can ruin any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can toebijten if you wait too long. Argh.
Well, a latest explore done by both Zoosk and Atractivo exposed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official. They took a look at overheen 1,000 damsels and 1,000 dudes and this is what they found: 25 procent of women think that you should wait “at least a few months” before making things legit, while 43 procent of guys thought “it takes a duo of good dates.”
So, how do you know when to make your sort-of-relationship an official relationship? That can be a little bit tricky.
Here’s something significant that you need to recall: you have every right to ask the dude you’ve bot hooking up with what he wants and if he’s interested te being your bf. I know too many women who are too afraid to everzwijn bring up the Big Talk because they’re worried that it’s going to scare the boy off. That is ridiculous.
Listen, ladies: if bringing up the r-word (relationship) is indeed going to scare the dude off, then he wasgoed never interested te gravely dating you to start with and waiting longer wasgoed most likely not going to switch that. That may sound harsh, but it’s true. If a boy is interested and worth your time, he’s not going to go running out the doorheen when you ask him about being bf and gf.
Back to the very first question. How do you know when it’s time to bring it up? I’m siding with the guys here: it’s best to wait until after a duo of fine dates and string up out seshs. Don’t be all like, “BE MY BOYFRIEND” te the middle of a very first date, okay? That will maniak anyone out. Wait a few weeks, after you guys have bot draping out for a little while. This will give you both time to get to know each other and to figure out if you’d like to be te a relationship together. It will also give you time to get more convenient to talk to him about it.
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Okay, so then how do you bring it up? I know that kicking off this conversation with a dude can be awkward, awkward and totally nerve-wracking. Trust mij, I know. I’ve done it a million times and let mij just tell you guys something: I am truly timid. So if I can talk about this with dudes, anyone can. I promise.
Like I said, this might be a slightly awkward convo – there might be no getting around that. But it’s worth it! Would you rather be lame and sit around waiting to hear what he thinks or would you rather take the initiative and find out where his head is on your own? Yeah, that’s what I thought.
Here’s what to do: very first of all, this conversation should toebijten ter person, not through text messages, Facebook talks or even on the phone. 2nd of all, you should be relatively quiet when you bring it up. The worst time to do this is te the middle of a fight or ter the middle of hookup.
When asking your man what he wants and if he wants to make the relationship official, you just need to be blunt. There’s no hitting around the thicket. Just say something like this: “I think wij’ve bot having a loterijlot of joy thesis past few weeks and I indeed like you. I just want to know what you want out of this relationship? Are you interested te getting serious or are you not looking for anything like that?” Yes, ladies, you do have to tell him how you feel.
Another significant thing to keep ter mind: going into this, you need to know what you want. If you want a relationship, you need to say that. If you don’t, say that too. And don’t agree to things you don’t want. If the dude says he has no rente ter being serious, he means it. Don’t be like, “Oh, okay, wij can be friends with benefits” and secretly hope he’ll switch his mind. He won’t. Spil much spil it gargles, you may need to cut ties with him if things don’t go well. Don’t lodge for something you don’t want just to be with him te some way!
Basically, this is a conversation that needs to toebijten. I know waaaayyyy too many chicks who have bot hooking up with a man they truly like for months and are too afraid to ask him what he wants. And you know what? Thesis chicks aren’t glad. They’re stressed because they have no clue what this dude wants because they’re too startled to say what they want. And you deserve better than that.
So, for lack of a better choice of words, man up and have The Talk with your fellow after a few weeks of dating. No matter what happens, I promise that you won’t regret figuring things out on your own.
Have you everzwijn had The Talk with a boy? What did you say? Are you afraid to ask to make things official? Tell us te the comments.