The rules of dating have switched. Leave behind that stuff about playing hard to get, expecting the man to pay, and never having hook-up on a very first date. Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may verrassing you. Read on to detect the fresh rules of engagement.

1. Modesty is a turn-off

Many profiles on dating websites commence with statements like: “I’m no good at this kleintje of thing”. The writers are doing themselves no favours. If you waterput yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. You’ll sound needy and insecure.

Two. … and so is bragging

Confidence is sexy, arrogance is not. “I cook a mean paella and I’ll always attempt to make you laugh” is good, but “I have a fantastic job and no-one can understand why I’m single” is not.

Three. “I love music and being with friends.” Well, obviously!

The aim of the online dating spel is to catch the eye of someone you have lots ter common with. You do this by being innovador and, above all, specific about your interests. Instead of telling that you like sunsets, mention the best sunset you’ve everzwijn seen. State which tracks you love, and your favourite place to see your friends. Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about.

Four. Never admit that your friend wrote your profile

“I asked my friend to describe mij, and here’s what he wrote…” is a cop-out. By writing this te your profile, you’re telling people that you’re not wise or self-aware enough to write it yourself.

Five. Zip up your baggage

Most grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a jumpy breakdown or two. But never admit it to a fresh or potential paramour. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Keep schtum until you know each other better.

6. Ditch the wish list

Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists. They’re looking for someone with brown eyes, brief hair, inbetween Five’10” and 6&#8242,, from westelijk London, and so on. Thesis lists are off-putting for two reasons. Very first, they make the writer sound like a control maniak. 2nd, they sound like an precies description of the writer’s ex.

7. No photo? No chance

Don’t even think about posting a dating advert without a photo. A picture-less ad says: “I am so ugly I didn’t want to risk a photo,” “I am married,” or “I am on the run from Broadmoor.”

8. Only one photo? Hmm…

Everyone who likes your main photo will want to see more. Not because they can’t get enough of you, but because a single photo is not a reliable indicator of what you look like. Postbode at least two snaps.

9. Don’t lie with the camera

An overly flattering photo will backfire. The potential dates come knocking, and then what? You meet, and the blood drains from their face spil they realise that your photo wasgoed taken Ten years, five stone and 500 wrinkles ago.

Ten. Sexy snaps will get you nowhere

Whether you’re a man or a woman, an unnatural photo with your T-shirt off makes you look desperate and/or only interested ter hookup.

11. Don’t fall te eagerness with a photo

Use photos and messages for spotting potential, but don’t embark fancying the pants off a two-dimensional pic. You may be disappointed ter person. Find out more on how to tell if a fellow likes you.

12. You might not get any messages right away

This is a aggressive fact of life for online dating beginners, especially dudes. More guys than women advertise on most dating sites, so the chicks get the pick of the bunch. Don’t get despondent. Read the profiles that get most views, and pick up tips from them. Tweak your bio and attempt switching your photos. Also – have you contacted anyone yourself?

13. Playing hard to get doesn’t work

Be proactive. You don’t have to write someone an epic love letterteken (please don’t) – just pick out a duo of appealing points ter their bio and write a quick intro message. Likewise, you won’t “keep them keen” by making them wait days for a reply. They’ll find someone else to date. Time moves prompt te online dating.

14. You don’t have to reply

Some rookies assume that they voorwaarde response every email, even if it’s “thanks, but no thanks”. Don’t bother. “Thanks but no thanks” can feel more hurtful than no reply.

15. Meet quickly, or zekering messaging

Don’t permit an email conversation to haul on for weeks without a date. You may think you’re “connecting”, but you can’t judge chemistry unless you meet up. Six messages ter total – not each – is enough to know whether you want a date.

16. Don’t expect too much from a very first date

You’re meeting a stranger. Chances are that you won’t fancy each other, or that only one of you will fancy the other. So don’t fantasise too much.

17. It may take many dates to find someone you like

It’s effortless to lose faith when your very first few dates don’t work out. It’s very unusual for someone to find a good match ter their very first few attempts. See it all spil practice, not spil proof that you’re a loser (or that everyone else is a loser). Learn from your bad and boring dates and attempt again.

Eighteen. Split the bill

You’re two grown-ups, not a sugardaddy and his gold-digger. Chivalry means being attentive, thoughtful and fair, not paying for all the food.

Nineteen. Have lovemaking if you want – and not if you don’t

Having hook-up doesn’t make you morally omkoopbaar, and it won’t necessarily wreck your chances of a relationship. If you’re both adults, single and you use protection, it’s your choice – but if you’d rather not, that’s your choice too. Never be shoved into hookup that you don’t want.

20. Call them the next day

Disregard those rules about waiting three days to get te touch. If you like someone, you have nothing to lose by letting them know. If they’re interested, they’ll be blessed that you called. If they’re not interested, at least you’ll know – and you can stir on to the next date.

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